You may need to get out your reading glasses for this one….
I found this tiny green, 3/4″ insect, on the back of my husband’s shirt the other evening. It was glorious outside and we were just about ready to dine, al fresco. I decided to quickly return it to the tomato plants. My husband had been watering the garden, and I figured that he, or more likely she, had come from that spot in our yard. I could see a pinpoint dot on the left eye and It reminded me of one of it’s ancestors, that I had come in contact with before, I’m sure. A couple of years ago, near this very same garden area was a much larger praying mantid. It was not happy to see me at all! It too, had it’s tiny left eye pointed at me. I found it on a dahlia, in-between the fragrant glut of gardenia’s and the vegetable garden.
Keep coming back guys. You are welcome in my garden any time, even if you do have a bit of an attitude. If I ate what you eat, I’d have an attitude too! (So happy that you help out around here.)
There are times in your life when you may be walking, and catch a certain scent and it sends you hurling back to another time and place. There are times when you may hear a certain phrase, and it makes you feel years younger. There are times when a song comes on the radio, and you think of a place or a time that you haven’t thought of in years. It’s like you’re standing in that exact place and time again, right then, yet right now. There are times when you see something and bang! Deja Vu This was one of those times. We were at a graduation party in Chico (or a congraduation party, as the sign read) and this photo was snapped, and when it was shown to me, the following album cover by Crosby Stills & Nash popped into my mind and the tunes started running through my head. What an amazing feeling to look at that photo and see something else. Truly Deja Vu or Duva Je as my husband often calls it. A mixing up of the words, but we both know it would mean the same thing.
My Little Deja Vu
I love those moments that whisk me back to another time. Those remembrances remind me of how very colorful and meaningful life can be.
And yes, we had a dog instead of a guitar, some of us barely knew each other, and it wasn’t our place; we were just trying to stay cool on a hot day. The song Deja Vu was on the next album by Crosby Stills and Nash. Both the albums are wonderful and even if you are young, and think you wouldn’t be interested in them; you should give them a listen. What a song writing talent, those three had. Check out Deja Vu on Wikipedia if you’ve never heard of the phenomena before. Those of us who are a bit older; we live our lives by it. It happens to me often and I try to stay in the memory or the moment as long as possible. Do you have a Deja Vu moment that continues to stick with you?
I took a walk early this morning, as the temperatures were climbing quickly again today. I’ve always found it interesting, that thoughts of things that were familiar in childhood seem to randomly float into my mind. I suppose everyone is like that. Today I was back in kindergarten at Westlake Elementary and Warren Scaroni was spilling milk on my dress, yet again. It happened almost every day. My mother said he liked me. It sure didn’t feel that way.
I thought about how memories are funny things and it is curious how they come and go. I was listening to music that was quite new, yet my mind was drifting to days that happened long ago. As I was walking, I noticed that a neighbors sprinklers were on and the sunlight was catching the water droplets on their vegetation in a beautiful way. I stopped for a while to admire the tiny rainbow droplets. I didn’t have my camera with me but I posted this photo as it has much the same feeling for me. Perhaps it is better that my mind remember that gorgeous scene as, if I had taken a photo, it probably wouldn’t look the same as my mind absorbed it anyway. As I travel through life, I want my mind to soak up all the most beautiful images and store them for me…..always. Do you have a special image that your mind returns to and recalls fondly?
I’ve thought a lot about writing about mothers today, and the impact they have on our lives. Mother’s Day is on Sunday and I am now a mom who has adult children who live on their own. This makes Mother’s Day quite different for me then how it used to be. I am lucky if I get a homemade card from one of my grandchildren and I remember how lovely it was when my own children would give me a handmade card. My favorite handmade cards came with coupons that I could use at a later date to receive help around the house. I still have some of those unused coupons in my drawer and I love to look at them and remember when my children were small. In case anyone wonders, as a mom, I always read the sentiment printed on the card and the sentiment that is written by hand. I have had some of the nicest cards given to me over the years.
This Mother’s Day is one where, some of the people I know, will be having their first Mother’s Day, without their mother (as she has passed on). This is a place we seldom contemplate when we are young and our mother is doing everything for us. We don’t stop to consider what our world would be like without our mother. My mother is here, but with her dementia, she won’t remember that it is Mother’s Day, even if I tell her fifteen times. I miss her sometimes when I am sitting next to her and I realize that she is there, yet so much of who she was is already gone. As mothers, on this earth, we are very much alike. It is with this thought that I want to share something with you.
Mom & Me
The one universal thing that makes a mother the happiest, is when all of her children are together and enjoying each others company. It sounds like a little thing, but as you grow older, it happens less and less often. So, if you can, try to find the time to be together as a family, if only for a bit. It will make your Mother’s Day!
On The Ice In SF
One of my children came to visit me last weekend. It was an early Mother’s Day surprise. We sat and we talked about our favorite memories of growing up. His fondest memory was the same as mine, with regards to our link to each other. Those times are lovely to reminisce about. So share your fondest memories with your mom this Sunday and if you all can’t be together, well, there’s always Facetime or Tango. Have a Happy Weekend and a Happy Mother’s Day too!